"I'm in charge all the time, too," she points out with a smile, petting his hair. "I get it, though. It's nice to not be in charge sometimes. When you've had to make so many hard decisions, sometimes it's nice to have no decisions at all. To just let go and let someone else make all the decisions."

She's talking in general, but also in particular about the day he's had, and how she had intended to ease it, to give him a chance to rest and be taken care of.